Even if you wanted to get divorced, you still may feel a bit lonely when your relationship ends and your ex moves out. You may have been married for years or even decades. It’s a big change to start living on your own again.
In order to stave off this loneliness, the key is to be proactive. Don’t let yourself fall into isolation, which is so easy to do. Spend time with other family members. Seek out friends. These people will be there for you. Be open to that companionship to make the transition easier.
Another thing that helps, if you have kids, is putting extra energy and effort into those relationships. Maybe you felt like it was all you could do to deal with your ex before the divorce. Now that you are free of that burden, you have more time and energy for your children. Plus, if you have to share custody with your ex, you want to make the most of the time you get.
It may also be time to take up new hobbies or invest more of your time in the ones that you have. Perhaps you never felt the freedom to travel before because your ex didn’t care about it, even though you loved it. Use the months after your divorce to take that trip you’ve been putting off. Remind yourself of the good things in life and distract yourself from being alone. You’ll enjoy it, perhaps even more than you thought you would.
These tips can help you move forward, but it is still important to remember your legal rights during the divorce, especially when you have children involved. If you’re having a hard time coming to some reasonable agreements with your ex-spouse regarding visitation and custody, a White Plains attorney may be able to help.