For some people, the real trouble with divorce isn’t the divorce itself. It’s the time after. That’s when they really feel the change in their lives.
It can be challenging. This is especially true if your spouse asked for the divorce, but it’s true even if you wanted it. It’s still a big shift in your life, and it may come with changes that you don’t love — such as not seeing your kids 100% of the time because you now have to share custody.
For example, one man said that his ex got to have their children for Christmas as part of their divorce. They went to her house on Dec. 24 and did not come back until the new year. That was hard for him since it changed the holidays so drastically.
If you’re dealing with something like this, the tactic that he used was to distract himself. He knew that staying home alone would just make it more difficult. Instead, he booked a vacation to a resort in Jamaica. He spent the time sitting on the beach, enjoying a relaxing time in an exotic location.
While that was still not the same as spending the time with his children, he said it was the “perfect way” to spend the holidays and wrap up the year. He found that he could still have fun on his own, and the distraction made the adjustment easier.
No matter where you are in your own divorce, it is very important to consider all of the changes in your life and the legal options that you have to address them.