Divorce is new to you. When you were younger, you never thought you’d find yourself here, but it’s clear to you that it is time to end the marriage.
That doesn’t mean you feel comfortable with the process. It’s intimidating, and you are well aware that you could make some mistakes that would impact the rest of your life. To help you, here are a few you need to avoid:
- Don’t fail to consider what life is going to be like when the divorce is over. This is especially true with financial issues. You need to consider the changes to your income and your bills carefully so that you can plan for the future.
- Don’t say negative things about your ex in front of your children. Remember that, first and foremost, you want to make this easier on the children. Those negative comments do not help.
- At the same time, don’t keep the news from the kids for too long. They deserve to know, and you do not want them to find out from another source. Tell them as soon as you know it’s going to happen.
- Don’t rely on advice you get from friends. Even if they already got divorced, they do not know your situation. Their advice may not be as bulletproof as they think it is.
- Don’t think that it’s all going to happen in a few days. It may take a few months. It all depends on how complicated it is. Divorce is not a quick fix.
As you move forward with this process, make sure you take the time to look into all of your rights as both a married adult and as a parent.